I have seen a large sense of confusion regarding the definition of feminism, including in those who call themselves feminists as well. Many people claim it concerns gender equality, but when someone says they are not a feminist the common response is "So you hate women?" Wouldn't they be hating all people if this were true? No. It's neither actually. It's about a social issue, a movement, and whether someone wants to be a part of that.
Personally I am not a feminist, mainly because I prefer using my time and giving myself for more "localized" (not literally) personal issues as opposed to "social" issues.
That being said, I very much respect people who call themselves feminists, and care and try to be a part of things that are greater.
Regardless of whether I agree with things that people stand for, I can attempt to relate to their opinions for the most part.
The only thing that I cannot and will not respect, is when people antagonize and downright hate other human beings. When people refuse to have discussions, and break things into 1 vs. 2, and legitimately regard large groups of people as trash.
Do you think there is systematic sexism in society? Cool! Do you think there isn't? Also cool! But how about not calling out anyone who thinks differently and how about listening and considering other people instead of saying they are stupid. A lot of people seem to think of all feminists as awful people who hate men because of stuff a few men do, but if you're hating all feminists because of stuff a few feminists do, is that really much better?
When it comes down to it a lot of those who are involved in these movements judge people by the tumblr posts they reblog and the hashtags they use and the movements they spend so much time trying to be a part of, but that stuff doesn't ring to me as proud or angry or opinionated or open minded. It makes me sad, because sometimes people spend so much time inside of it all that they lose everything else.
I've seen a lot of judgement in this whole conversation. I would kindly ask that if anyone is going to judge me, please judge me on the basis of the music I live for, the times I have made people laugh, and the absolutely amazing human beings that I am so glad and proud to call my friends.